Hey there, my amazing readers. How have you guys been? I have been missing writing to you guys but you know life happens and stuff piles up. Anyways I know most of you saw last weeks piece. I had the honor to have Careen (as she mentioned on her post) write a piece for my blog for that particular week. I hope you guys enjoyed it as much as I did and learnt a thing or two. Before I continue can I just have like a mini rant about how next week is the last week of October. OMG where has the time gone? I don’t wanna know or even stress about it.
Today I wanna talk with you guys about own race, own pace life. Are you constantly feeling pressure from society, family, spouse or just self inflicted pressure to do something or be someone you do not really care to be? Well, guess what? We all are and as much as we would like to shut it out and ignore it. It is unfortunately part of this life and we just have to find a way to navigate through life with it.
Whether you are in your twenties or fifties, There is just someone out there telling you, you should be someone or do something that if you think really deep about it, you do not care. Lisa has got you covered for today’s dose of outside pressure. I wanna share with you guys how I deal with outside pressure. When to ignore it and when to maybe listen and evaluate if it’s helpful input. I know that constantly hearing other people’s expectations on your life can be annoying and exhausting but it needs wisdom to know when to shut the haters out and when to take note of something that’s meant to be constructive even though the delivery at times can be absolutely horrible. Sometimes even the people you expect to have your back can put unnecessary pressure and expectations on you. The key is (A) wisdom, (B) know who you are and what you want out of life. What really matters to you and what does not matter.
A. WISDOM; we all need wisdom to go by our daily lives. We live in very very interesting and different times where things that weren’t deemed normal back in the day are now beyond normal. We have young people doing astonishing things at such a young age without necessarily going through the life lessons that you would go through. People becoming overnight sensations and successes. The worst part of all this is we also have the magic of social media in which despite it’s beautiful advantages, it can be damaging and toxic. Saying all this, a lot of wisdom is needed to just be able to go about your day to day life. Because you could have no one telling you physically who you should be but the images you see on the media could be subconsciously putting pressure on you and leave you feeling depressed and unhappy with the amazing life you have been blessed with. How does one acquire wisdom. The best and oldest technique is through listening. Listen, listen and listen as often as you can. There are times to talk but if you want to learn and grow it’s best to listen. Listen to your peers, listen to people older than you who have succeeded in an area you are interested in or just one’s who have succeeded. There is so much wisdom that is obtained through listening especially listening to the right person(s) and knowing how to discern what would help you and what is just bonus information. Another way to gain wisdom is through reading. Reading the right books with the information that can be helpful to you. Lastly wisdom can also be gained through the best teacher known as experience. By going through life and making different choices, be it good or bad choices there is always a lesson to be taken home from them.
B. KNOWING WHO ARE AND WHAT YOU WANT; it is very important to find yourself and know what you want out of life. For some people it can take a very long time meanwhile for others it comes very easy to them. Regardless of how long it takes you need to get there at your own pace and when you do no one will have any control over you. Once you know who you are then you are able to live your life to your fullest potential because you know what matters to you what does not really matter. Society has over the years build these pressure norms like having a family, owning a car, a house and the list goes on and on. But once you find yourself then you are free from all this because the only person who needs to be happy and satisfied by your choices is you. You don’t have to have a kid by 40 because everyone is wondering if you’re going to settle down. I believe that my point is coming across and I hope that this is helpful to someone out there. Remember that your ONLY competition is the reflection you see on the mirror when you look at yourself. You need to be a better and evolving you each day. Not better than Dan, Jamal, Pendo or Buhle. You need to be better than you. Thanks so much for stoping by today. I hope you are enjoying the content and see you guys next time.